Near Rotorua, NZ the area brims with small to giant lakes. On this day, it took about two hours to kayak across this New Zealand lake. It was a windy day, sometimes at our back, that we pushed throw. As we paddled into the opposite shore our guide suggested we stop at a natural hot springs the Parks Department had turned into an open air spa for all.
It was a bit of heaven to relax in the warm mineral waters after our intense open water journey. After a few minutes of soaking I noticed the head of a young child bobbing up and down. Then I saw a second child, identical, pop out of the water with a Barbie.
My camera was immediately drawn to the scene. However, before I engaged, I looked for a parent to get permission. It took only a moment to see a young woman waving and encouraging the pair.
I waded over, introduced myself and asked to photograph the girls. I find when I travel, the easiest way to ask and receive is to explain to my subject or in this case the parent the following:
“Hi, my name is Davis, I’m a professional photographer from (in this case) the U.S., Seattle specifically. I’m on a journey and capturing moments that will remind me of my trip. You kids are so delightful. I’d like to include some to remind of this moment. Would that be alright?”
If I’m looking for just one or two snaps I might say, “Hi, what a great picture! I’d like to take a couple of snaps.” This to has always meet with approval.
I use this in some variation when I travel and approach a stranger. I rarely, if ever, comment on their looks, attire, or other distinguishing marks. This can be misinterpreted or come off seeming “creepy”. Being part of my journey works great for me. Also in this day and age, everyone has a camera and constantly take picture.
Back to the twins. My partner, Beth, has volunteered at the humane society with cats for the last 22 years. They call her the “cat whisperer”. I’ve learned some valuable lessons from her and her approach to a new cat or kitten. She slowly moves toward them, extending a soft, warm voice. Eventually moving close enough to engage the critter.
Similarly, with people and particularly children. I move toward them slowly, chatting them up and maybe taking a few snaps as I get closer. At some point, our conversation turns to something fun. In this case the Barbie dolls. It’s then I may direct the play to create an image I find “snap worthy”.
In the space of five or so minutes, I’ve introduced myself, engaged my subject, and then lean back to see where it goes. With small children a wee bit more encouragement is often needed to keep them with you.
As I drew closer and asked open ended questions, the girls move to the edge to talk. They placed their dolls on the ledge and answered my questions. After a few minutes, they were off splashing away and laughing. And I looked toward the parent, smiled, nodded my head in thanks and was off. I left with a few memorable images and just as important, extremely happy for the experience.